With social media it is so easy to compare. “What does my feed look like compared to someone else’s? Are my photos as good as theirs? How many more followers do they have? Do they get more likes and comments on their posts than I do?” Just in life in general it is easy to compare. “How do I look compared to her? Do others think she dresses better than me? Do people think she’s prettier/smarter/more successful/more likable than me?”
Honey, stop it.
This isn’t a competition. Life isn’t a comparison game.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt
What you have to offer is different than someone else and obviously you will go about it in different ways. You have a different voice, a different style, and there is nothing wrong with that. If anything, it’s good! Life would be so boring if everyone sounded and looked the same, don’t you think?
Our uniqueness and differences is exactly what keeps things interesting, diverse. We all have different tastes, likes and dislikes, and there has to be differences in order for us to all be included. 1 Corinthians 12 speaks of this.
“For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, ‘Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,’ that would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear should say, ‘Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,’ that would not make it any less a part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as He chose. If all were a single member, where would the body be?” 1 Corinthians 12:14-19 ESV
We need to be different in order to do our roles in the Kingdom. There needs to be those great at conveying messages through word. There needs to be those whose hearts are overflowing with compassion. There needs to be those who move others by music. There needs to be those who speak with boldness before a crowd.
“Girls can rival each other, but real women revive each other. Girls can impale each other, but real women empower each other. Girls can compare each other, but real women champion each other and we are all made to be groundbreakers and peacemakers and freedom shakers.” Ann Voskamp, The Broken Way
As women pursuing after God, we really must stop comparing ourselves. It’s not godly behavior and it’s not a godly example.
“Finally, [sisters], rejoice. Aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.” 2 Corinthians 13:11 ESV
Rather than compare our differences, let us encourage them! Let’s encourage the photographers and the writers; the hospitable, caring woman and the independent, successful woman. Let’s help push each other to the greatest that we can be, who we were created to be.
“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV
“And let us consider how to stir one another to love and good works,” Hebrews 10:24 ESV
Being different is what allows the Kingdom of God to grow. It’s how we reach all those who are lost.
God created each of us with our unique skill set and gifts, talents and hobbies, likes and dislikes. There is no one like you. He made you just as you are for a purpose, His purpose.
“If we all listen long enough to the voices about who we should be, we grow deaf to the beauty of who we are.” Ann Voskamp, The Broken Way
The beauty of who we are is who God says we are. We are His beloved child, wonderfully and fearfully made, precious and priceless. He has a unique plan for you. Don’t listen to the lies of society. Don’t listen to the lies of comparison that you’re not enough – good enough, pretty enough, talented enough. God says you have been made enough for the call He has for you. Rather than doubt what you have to offer, use it to the fullest! Utilize your gifts and talents in all the ways it can glorify God.